Ruby’s Anniversary.

For my friend Abi, who is suffering the pain of grief.


People use lots of phrases

To help them when words

Don’t come easily or are hard to find.


They want to help

To be a comfort

To empathise

And they know they can’t.


When you say

I understand


Time will heal

You are lying.


But what else can you say?

Perhaps it’s better to not say anything at all

For fear of wounding even more.

Your prayers may not be welcome

Though necessary for you.


Best then, to sit beside,

To hug,

To remember that important date,

To listen, and to care.




2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Abi
    May 08, 2014 @ 17:22:42

    Thankyou,time dosent heal.but life must go on and on.ruby was the star in a very dark sky and she’ll be missed forever.but I’m pleased we got to love her and know her.but she can come back now.xx


  2. elsieshufflebottom
    May 08, 2014 @ 19:56:42

    As you know, I didn’t meet Ruby. Your memories and photos though, when passed to me, become part of my experience. …I won’t ever forget who she was, and who loves her, and who misses her. xx


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